使他人喜歡伱 - 成功的秘訣之一，但是，如何呢？

Key to Success: Getting People to Like You

•Likeability may be the easiest way to explain why chief executives earn as much as they do – according to several books coming out this month.

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In fact, Tim Sanders, a “leadership coach” at Yahoo, writes in his new book, “The likeability Factor, “ having people want to be around you “is truly the secret of a charmed, happy and profitable life.”

Mr. Sanders, who had a best seller three years ago with “Love Is the Killer App, “ defines likeability as “an ability to create positive attitudes in other people through the delivery of emotional and physical benefits.” Then, citing academic studies that seem to prove that likeability people do better in life.

•There are four aspects of likeability:

–1. Friendliness. “Expressing a liking for another person; communicating welcome, “ is the way he puts it. 友善的態度〈好比在頭上貼著個布條 - 歡迎光臨〉
2. –Relevance. He defines it as the extent to which you connect to another’s wants and needs. 儘量使自己符合他人的精神上或實質上的需要

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–3. Empathy. “Understanding so intimate that the feelings, thoughts and motives of one are readily comprehended by another. 要能將心比心，要能設身處地為他人著想

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–4. Being real. He says it is important to be “factual and actual” rather than just trying to present an image to the world. 務實與真實，不要只是做些表面工作